Openness in Relationships

Question: Who really knows you enough to be open with you?

Do you have someone in your life that will tell you the truth when you’re messing up?  Are you that person for your close friends?  As a pastor there are times when I have to tell people the things they don’t want to hear.  “Well what you’re experiencing right now is the consequence of your sin.”  Ouch, no one wants to hear that but love demands the truth that we might grow and become better followers of Christ.

Proverbs 27:5-6 – An open rebuke is better than hidden love! Wounds from a friend are better than many kisses from an enemy.

You can measure the value that you place on a relationship by the level of discomfort you are willing to engage to make that relationship the best it can possibly be.  If you value the relationship and love the person you have to risk the conflict and even the loss of the relationship to help the person grow.

I’m not talking about butting in constantly but if you love someone and there’s weakness or a sin creeping in, tell them the truth.  The big question is do you have someone who loves you enough to tell YOU the truth?

2 thoughts on “Openness in Relationships

  1. pastorlon says:

    I to have paid the price at times for telling my friends the truth in love. I don’t mean looking at someone and saying “That dress is ugly.” That’s just poor manners and not spoken in love but when you tell someone an unpleasant truth, hoping to help them, it doesn’t always end well. Ahhhhh the courage it takes to be a good Christian, “dying to self” daily.


  2. Tony Barbaro says:

    There have been a couple of times in my life when I THOUGHT I was a good enough friend to be honest w/ someone,who I THOUGHT could handle it…I was wrong and the relationships ended on a sour note.It takes a mature christian to hear the truth and maybe not be jumping for joy about it,at least consider that the person means the best for us.If they do of course.We need to rely on the Holy Spririt ot tell us when some one is trying to help,or just in our “stuff”..But if you truly know someone as a good friend who does hear from the Spirit,we should listen w/ Spritual ears.I,of course do this all the time…..yeah,right.


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