A few days ago I spoke to my daughters basketball coach after a loss in a tournament. (Being a Syracuse University alumni and fan I can sympathize.) He bemoaned, “The things we just went over in practice two days ago they completely forgot!” As a coach, I know that frustration, when you practice and practice a play then the players don’t do it in the game. Any leader runs into this in any area of life.
I recently spoke to someone who asked me for advice about the very topic I had preached upon only two weeks before. I asked him if he’d missed that Sunday but he replied that he was in that service. I repeated the instruction I had given while preaching and he said, “Wow, that’s really good. It helps a lot, thanks.” I stopped him as he began to walk away and asked, “Did you listen when I said those exact words only Sundays ago?” He looked at me bewildered.
In truth, he had heard, but the lesson had not penetrated. Maybe he was distracted or didn’t take notes but more likely he just needed to hear it again.
This is the thing most pastors, leaders and teachers…and dare I say parents, are most frustrated with. “I teach a great lesson but they don’t remember it two weeks later.”
I remind teachers and leaders often that teaching someone an important truth once is never enough. The only way to change their behavior is for you to say it over and over again.
Repetition. No one enjoys it. Some students will check out, “I’ve heard this before.” The teacher is bored because they have taught the information before. The problem is repetition is the single best way to invoke change. If you lift a weight once, nothing changes (except maybe a hernia) but lift that same weight 100 times a day, every day, and you will see great changes over time.
Repetition is the Frustrating Father of Learning but better to endure some frustration than to miss an important truth that should be learned.
“Therefore I remind you to stir up the gift that is in you … ” (II Timothy 1:6).
“Of these things put them in remembrance … ” (II Timothy 2:14).
I understand we can’t repeat everything but here are something that need to be repeated over and over and over…well you get the point, ad infinitum. In part 2 of this blog tomorrow, I will give 7 Biblical Truths we pastors, leaders and parents need to keep repeating in the hope that eventually we will get it.